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Opinion: Don’t like dating apps? Here’s how I met my husband

From Bumble to Tinder, Mutual and Hinge, each dating app boasts of love and excitement. But their effects can be diverse — some users leave with a relationship, while others end up with the emotional weight of loneliness, anxiety, low self-esteem, body insecurity and depression. I dabbled in dating apps when I turned I painfully scoured each photo I put on a profile, wondering if my eye was too squinty, if my smile might be crooked, if that shadow on my face made my skin look bad. I went on dates — bad dates with uncomfortable people, better dates with people who made me laugh, cringy dates that should have ended quickly but somehow stretched on for hours. But my primary emotion was not excitement or connection or love. I felt stressed — like I had to prove myself in some speed round get-to-know-you before they swiped on the next person in line. And why not? On dating apps, the dead ends pile up — and I quickly grew emotionally exhausted of swiping. But they can also introduce you to a host of mental health struggles.

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Q: I am 29 years old, and the last semi-healthy relationship I had was back in I know. Since then, I've had a lot of changes in my life both professionally and personally and dating took a second seat in terms of my priorities. Then, the pandemic hit, and that's when I realized, or slowly became mind-numbingly aware of, how incredibly single I have been for a few years. I want to start dating and meeting people again, even if it's just as friends. It gives me anxiety, and I also feel incredibly naked online. As a woman, I am not a stranger to a man reacting in anger if I refuse to exchange phone numbers or meet right away.

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After a while of him trying to cuddle me, I politely asked him to leave. Afterward he sent me overtly sexual messages, and I asked him to stop contacting me, at which point he lashed out, called me names, and commented on my weight. Blocked him. A couple weeks later, I logged into the app, and he came up as I was swiping, claiming my neighborhood as where he lived and even posting a pic of the view from my balcony. I reported everything to Hinge, and they very quickly took care of it, as he violated the user agreement with the name calling. I explained that I live in the building and I needed to get to my dog, who was in my apartment.

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Why I’m Never Going To Do Online Dating Again

Estimated reading time: 18 minutes. My match rate? Practically zilch. I even went on Photofeeler to have folks rate my pictures.

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