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Dating: 8 Black Men Share Do’s & Don’ts

Armon Perry does not work for, consult, own shares in or receive funding from any company or organisation that would benefit from this article, and has disclosed no relevant affiliations beyond their academic appointment. Finding and keeping a good Black man in a relationship has become a cottage industry. From celebrities and reality TV stars to social media influencers , for better or worse, there is no shortage of relationship advice to people seeking to figure out Black men. And while much of this content is understood to be for entertainment purposes only, some of it is presented and received as legitimate and data-driven. This is a problem because too many people cannot distinguish what they see onscreen from reality. Media portrayals are often hyperbolic and sensationalized to attract public attention.

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Last month, this handsome, burly guy in his early 40s hit me up on one of the apps. We moved from general greetings to dirty talk with ease. We wanted each other and I could almost taste how his body would feel against mine.

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As my primary schoolmates drooled over the pubescent charms of Grange Hill's Tucker Jenkins, I preferred his luckless mixed-race sidekick Benny. Likewise, in adulthood, my choice of partner, fictional or not, has remained steadfastly black. My preference doesn't stem from an eroticisation of black men or a distaste for white men; rather, it is due to the need for a comfort zone - a relatively safe place where, as a black woman, race won't impinge on my personal relationships as it so often does in daily life. Call it an unashamed love of my own blackness, combined with an ever-present fear of racism, and you're somewhere close to an explanation.

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Why I'll only date black men

The most troubling issue for me is the slanted press and stereotypes Black men endure, resulting in them carrying a skewed reputation of being violent, lazy criminals everywhere they go. I personally have a number of Black male family members and friends who have never been to jail, have college degrees, and are good fathers. Because of this knowledge and my general affinity for being a tolerant and realistic human being , I believe Black men deserve the utmost respect in relationships, just like anyone else.

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