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Dating A Pakistani Man? Don't Ever Ignore These 10 Red Flags

I have been exposed to different types of people and have experienced a plethora of situations that someone raised and brought up in Pakistan might not have. Therefore, you can imagine why marrying a Pakistani man — someone who has lived thirty years of his life in Pakistan — has not been a stroll in the park. This does not mean marrying someone from the United States would have been any easier, since every relationship has its ups and downs, but these are just the differences we have and have to face almost every single day. Before you start thinking my gem of a husband forces me to wear shalwar kameez , you are absolutely wrong. It is actually quite the opposite. It is instilled in me as to what type of occasion calls for which outfit. Thus, when my husband urges me to wear jeans and a t-shirt around his family, it makes me uncomfortable. I have always been taught to wear a dupatta around my elders and family, so his action of wanting me to feel comfortable in what I wear does not equate to me wearing western clothes everywhere I go. Up until two years ago, I had long hair for as long as I can remember.

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Yet when it comes to understanding love and relationships, the gap between these worlds sometimes feels insurmountable. The bustle of 15 families, dressed in salwar kameez , scooping daal and aloo palak onto plastic plates before squeezing onto a squashed sofa is a familiar scene for many British-Pakistani Muslims. However, beyond the familiarity of the buzz and the smells, there was one unspoken rule. Boys and girls did not talk. Often these are chaotic house parties or large scale events full of brash and impulsive decisions, overt flirting and, more times than not, no adult supervision — a rite of passage for British teenagers up and down the country. The life of romantic intimacy inside and outside my home had never been placed in such stark contrast. Growing up, this is the benchmark I measured my life by, counting the years of my youth away.

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I face the pressures from my two cultures which contradict each other, what is expected from me from a religious standpoint, expectations of prospective partners and their cultures, my family, and most of all myself — my "self," which contains so many sub-identities and ways I am expected to be that I don't know how to act. I am the Muslim child of Pakistani immigrants, and I was born and raised in America. I've been trying to balance the many nuances of what this unique identity means for me when it comes to pursuing a romantic relationship.

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As A Pakistani-American Woman, Here's How My Life Changed After Marrying A Pakistani Man

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