Dating a man who has a girlfriend

If He Has a Girlfriend Why Does He Want Me

W hen you think about it, despite feeling difficult, the problems people struggle with in dating sound pretty trivial. And we stall. Generally speaking, if someone practices piano daily for two years, they will eventually become quite competent at it. Yet many people spend most of their lives with one romantic failure after another. What is it about this one area of life that the most basic actions can feel impossible, that repetitive behavior often leads to little or no change, and that our psychological defense mechanisms run rampant trying to convince us to not pursue what we want? Why dating and not, say, skiing? Or even our careers?

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Well, one of the guys is really nice and, of course, not too bad looking! We flirt now and again, but I can't shake this feeling that we'd be perfect together. We literally finish each other's sentences, and I often look up from work that I'm doing and see him looking at me.

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Probably often enough that if you actually stayed friends with all those exes, your squad would field a baseball team. I explained this to him, and he said he understood but he wanted to be my friend after he took some time. So a couple weeks later when he reached out asking if we could get drinks I happily accepted. It started innocently enough. But when I mentioned one night that I had gone out with someone a handful of times and it was going well, he got angry that I was dating other people.

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The Do’s and Don’ts of Post-Dating Friendship

First, please understand that I want no part in ruining someone's relationship. To cause someone pain is the very last thing I want. I am not here to get advice on how to "get him to break up with her". I'm here to share my story and perhaps hear back from others who have experienced the same thing.

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